Get It Done and Get It Won!
One of the toughest jobs as a parent is to get children to focus, stick to a task, and get it done. As children, part of their job is to be highly distractable, instant gratification seekers, and eager to find ways to get around the task at hand. If you have a child that is always committed to his or her schoolwork with little or no guidance, then this blog entry is not for you. BUT…if you have a child that is the exact opposite, then read on! We may have some tips that help!
There was a study done in 2013 by Angela Duckworth who is a psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania. In her book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance, she identifies key factors that allow children to develop the mindset to: push to completion; bypass obstacles; and achieve what they set out to accomplish.
Now, to be fair, many of our children amaze us with their “grit”. Through good times and stressful times, they love us unconditionally. They can sometimes offer their help when they see how everyday life has overwhelmed us. When things get tough and we as parents have to do without, sometimes our children show us understanding instead of disappointment. However, as parents we can all use a little extra help in the raising-a-good-human-being department! So, here is 3 strategies YOU can try to make navigating school and life little easier for your child:
Let them EXPLORE! Children have been found to learn more when they are having fun. Let your child play and explore new things through after-school clubs at school, family trips, school excursions or maybe just trying out for a different sport. At Concept Schools, we offer many after school opportunities for our students. They can choose from chess to traditional dance to robotics. Many of our schools have both girls’ and boys’ sports teams in a variety of competitive tracks. Our network-wide Concept Young Scholars Program (CYSP) encourages exploration in multiple areas. More info here: http://www.conceptschools.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/CYSP-pages.pdf
Help them understand and practice SELF-CONTROL. We live in a culture of instant gratification. If I ask for it, I want it NOW! As adults and parents we know all too well that most things we have to wait for and work toward in steps. The earlier you start teaching your child(ren) self-control, the more prepared they will be to live in the real world. Studies even show that children who become adults that have self-control tend to achieve more, earn more, save more, and have a healthier life. Setting up situations where they can practice this is very important. Putting limits on TV, using their cell phones and computer devices is a great start. Having a bedtime routine and standard time to go to sleep, helps them understand balance. (You setting your own boundaries and limits models self-control to them in a great way!)
REACH FOR THE STARS! The research says it over and over again. Children will rise to whatever expectations you have of them so, reach for the stars! Having high expectations in the classroom allows students to achieve at high levels—even for struggling kids. Having high expectations at home reinforces and increases positive outcomes for your children. It can sometimes be hard to push (and don’t overdo it!), but making sure your child(ren) aim high is the key to fulfilling their dreams and feeling good about themselves. At Concept Schools, we have high expectations for all of the 13,000+ students we serve in 30 schools across 7 states in the Midwest! For more information, please click here: ConceptSchools.org
Excerpted from: How to Raise a Kid Who Won’t Quit by Hank Pellisier for GREAT! Schools.org For more information on how you can raise a healthy, happy achiever, please visit: http://bit.ly/2kYwwVo